Building Self Confidence

Nobody is born confident. Confidence is a skill (more accurately, a series of skills) which can be developed systematically. High levels of self confidence can yield remarkable benefits in personal relationships, in your career, even in the level of general relaxation you feel.

Where you are right now is a subtle combination of genetics, early influences (such as birth order, the cultural milieu of your family and neighbourhood), and later experiences which have affected your confidence for better and worse. This almost random selection of influences should not be allowed to continue to set your patterns of behaviour.Your history may be fixed, but its ability to determine your future is not.

Physical fitness provides a useful analogy. Your current level of fitness is determined by a similar blend of random historical factors – genetics, diet, exercise levels - yet you know that you can – given commitment and effort – become stronger, fitter, more agile.

Why Confidence Matters  

People visit us for many reasons. Some recognise that they have yet to realise their potential because of confidence-related issues. Others are simply lonely, and have arrived at a determination to change their lives for the better. Possibly the most common reason for using Confidence Club is to become more assertive in a range of situations : to act as your conscience dictates with less anxiety about the opinions of others.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

"Our Deepest Fear" by Marianne Williamson

Quoted by Nelson Mandela in his 1994 Inaugural Speech

Our Approach  

At the heart of our approach is the development of your personal confidence profile. If you click on the ‘questionnaire’ link on the left hand side you will be taken to our questionnaire; this will generate a profile of your confidence broken down into the following elements :

• social confidence
• peer independence
• stage presence
• physical presence
• status confidence

Your confidence profile is highly personal; whilst you will certainly recognise yourself in the profile, you may also find some surprises. This is because confidence is primarily an unconscious quality, containing much of which is hidden from the conscious mind.

For this reason, as well as providing valuable text resources to help you to understand the roots of your confidence issues, we will also provide hypnotherapy resources tailored specifically to match your profile.

Hypnotherapy is a remarkably direct and effective form of treatment, yet most hypnotherapy tapes and CDs have been frustratingly generic in content – they have attempted to address a broad range of requirements simultaneously. Whilst this may have some value, we are committed to making our resources as specific as possible, providing you with the most effective tools available to enhance specific aspects of your self confidence.

What Do I Do Next?  

Click on the questionnaire link - this will take you to the Confidence Club questionnaire. Completion will take around 5 minutes. Your confidence profile will be sent to you via email, together with a range of resources tailored to match your profile.

Please note that Confidence Club does not derive any income from the sale of email addresses or other personal information. We are an ethical organisation composed entirely of professionals in the fields of health and psychotherapy, and as such will conform to the highest ethical standards at all times.