Benefits of Status Confidence
In an ideal society, none of us would be affected by status. We
would be perfectly relaxed being ourselves, living our lives without
tension or conflict. In the human world, with its coded status markers,
the best we can hope to achieve is to be comfortable in our own
skin, and relaxed in our dealings with others.
Possibly everybody falls short of their potential. Perhaps none
of us can truly say "I am what I am". Every time we adjust our message
or our values to accommodate dominant people, we diminish ourselves.
For some of us, this becomes an ingrained habit.
Low status confidence is an inhibitor. We have no idea what we
could achieve if only we could resist the social forces which conspire
to keep us within our respective pigeonholes. Because social pressure
does hold us back. Social pressure is the voice which says "don't
have a go - you might end up looking foolish". Social pressure tells
you that you shouldn't ask that man or woman for a date because
he or she is out of your league. Social pressure tells you that
your current job, income, home and leisure pursuits are 'appropriate'
for 'somebody like you' and you'd better not aspire to anything
too different in case you get ideas above your station.
Social pressure also has its benefits, of course. We are a social
animal and our finest, most noble impulses spring from this sense
of being part of society. Co-operation is part of the human success
story, and a truly status confident person is able to exercise leadership
when required, and to be an excellent team member when that is more
appropriate. Status confidence allows us to select the role which
is most appropriate to the moment.
Raising Status Confidence
You communicate your social status constantly, primarily through
body language and voice tone. This communication is unconscious;
it is felt rather than known or consciously controlled.Your status
changes over time, partly in response to internal perceptions but
primarily as a consequence of being treated differently by others.
It's another example of virtuous or vicious cycles. The way in which
you behave reflects your self perception of status. This is either
accepted or challenged by the people around you. If you encounter
a person who is displaying dominance greater than your self perception
will support, you will back off from a challenge. If somebody you
perceive as being lower in status than you raises a challenge to
your dominance, your self perception will allow you to reject their
challenge.
The net effect of this continuous exchange is that we become locked
in to a particular status level. People above our level will generally
'win' any challenge, while people below our level will usually 'lose'
any challenge, so our current status is continuously reinforced.
The challenge is to adjust our unconscious, completely hidden,
perception of our own status. This can be achieved through work
on two fronts :
- sending strong messages of raised status to our unconscious
mind
- becoming comfortable with resisting challenges from dominant
individuals
The key to both objectives is the use of hypnosis to impart direct
and indirect suggestions. The Confidence Club hypnotherapy CD 'Developing
Status Confidence' is based on the following principles :
- use of role models to support visualisation of self in higher
status roles
- reduction of unconscious resistance to raised status
- direct suggestion to boost self esteem
- reduction in anxiety experienced when dealing with dominant
individuals
Raising one's status confidence is a long-term goal rather than
a short-term boost. The benefits are significant and lifelong. Your
existing level of social status is the result of many irrelevant
factors genetics, your birth order, your early experiences and
remains largely static because social pressure acts to make it difficult
for you to change unaided. There is no good reason for you to accept
the accidents of history. You are free to change. Expressing your
freedom is not an act of defiance. You are free because you are.
FAQs
Is hypnotherapy safe?
Hypnotherapy is probably the safest form of therapy available.
You must not use the CD whilst driving, or operating machinery,
for obvious reasons. If you suffer from epilepsy, are under any
medication, or undertaking any form of psychotherapy, you should
consult your physician before undertaking hypnotherapy.
What changes will I experience through using the 'Developing Status
Confidence' CD?
Your social status, as perceived by others, will rise. You will
become much more comfortable dealing with high status people as
equals. Indeed, you will feel more comfortable dealing with all
people as equals. This in turn will result in a lower level of background
tension, resulting from the hundreds of human interactions you negotiate
each day.
How often should I listen to the CD?
In the early stages, 2 - 3 times per week. After the first month,
reduce this to once per week. After 6 months, reduce to once per
month. Set aside private time when you can listen to the CD in comfort,
with no external distractions. Some of the messages are explicit,
whilst others are indirect they will influence your behaviour
in ways which are not clear to you.
This time commitment is important. Taken over the course of a year
it is a trivial amount of time, although you will need to be quite
disciplined in the early stages. Changing patterns of behaviour
requires commitment.
My confidence profile indicates that I need to develop in more
than one area. Which should I focus on first?
Focus on the one which most inspires you. Personal development
is a continuous process - change is a constant in our lives - so
you can feel free to start your program at any point. The important
thing is to start somewhere. Once the benefits of your more relaxed,
more confident self begin to emerge, you will find it easy to continue
with your program of self development. |
